RELATIONSHIP PRT2: ARE LIES REALLY A NECESSARY EVIL?
This post is a continuation of the last one.
Last time i spoke a little on how effective good or bad communication can be on our relationships, talking to each other helps avoid misunderstanding, this is why we have therapeutic sessions where all that is basically done is "Talking about it". Many walk out of those sessions wishing they had talked about it, so much troubles could have been avoided. So open up and talk about it!
In conclusion of this topic, i would like to quickly point out to us one hindrance to how effective our communication can be.
By now i am sure you know what i am taking about.
I believe this is a very sensitive topic of discussion because i have heard many side of this. But the question really is, Are lies really necessary in holding a relationship together?
Truth is, Communication becomes very difficult when trust is lost! If I find out its all lies every time i chose to hear you out, then really listening to you explain again over an issue becomes hard.
From the cases i have seen, lies do more harm than good, there is really no need of us being together if i can't trust you!
The most common excuses are, "i didn't want him/her to get hurt" "I couldn't just bring myself to tell him/her the truth" What lies does is to compound and pros-pone the hurt!
What we don't know is that hearing it when it happens is far more better than hearing it on a later date. It hurts even more when its from a different source. Personally i can take it and be willing to work through it when i hear it from you not from someone else, it just becomes difficult and it will take grace to really work it out!
In conclusion, i very much understand that sometimes, telling the truth can be very difficult, especially when you stand a chance at losing the person, but understand that at the end of the day you still stand at losing the person even faster when they find out.
Also lets be willing to hear the truth, i know that there are some persons out there who prefers not to know, what you are doing is trying to prevent what will inevitably happen.
It takes a great deal to tell the truth, when you are told, if not for anything, respect that person for owning up to their mistake.
He/She told you cause they really want to be with you!
Again, what do i know? i would love to hear from you, about your experience and what you think. Wishing your relationship all the best!
You can also join the discussion here on DISQUS, just click this link
Last time i spoke a little on how effective good or bad communication can be on our relationships, talking to each other helps avoid misunderstanding, this is why we have therapeutic sessions where all that is basically done is "Talking about it". Many walk out of those sessions wishing they had talked about it, so much troubles could have been avoided. So open up and talk about it!
In conclusion of this topic, i would like to quickly point out to us one hindrance to how effective our communication can be.
I believe this is a very sensitive topic of discussion because i have heard many side of this. But the question really is, Are lies really necessary in holding a relationship together?
Truth is, Communication becomes very difficult when trust is lost! If I find out its all lies every time i chose to hear you out, then really listening to you explain again over an issue becomes hard.
From the cases i have seen, lies do more harm than good, there is really no need of us being together if i can't trust you!
The most common excuses are, "i didn't want him/her to get hurt" "I couldn't just bring myself to tell him/her the truth" What lies does is to compound and pros-pone the hurt!
What we don't know is that hearing it when it happens is far more better than hearing it on a later date. It hurts even more when its from a different source. Personally i can take it and be willing to work through it when i hear it from you not from someone else, it just becomes difficult and it will take grace to really work it out!
In conclusion, i very much understand that sometimes, telling the truth can be very difficult, especially when you stand a chance at losing the person, but understand that at the end of the day you still stand at losing the person even faster when they find out.
Also lets be willing to hear the truth, i know that there are some persons out there who prefers not to know, what you are doing is trying to prevent what will inevitably happen.
It takes a great deal to tell the truth, when you are told, if not for anything, respect that person for owning up to their mistake.
He/She told you cause they really want to be with you!
Again, what do i know? i would love to hear from you, about your experience and what you think. Wishing your relationship all the best!
You can also join the discussion here on DISQUS, just click this link
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